I Don’t Know But I Can Find Out

January 25, 2016 at 2:58 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment


“The biggest consequence to telling a lie is, it leads you to telling another one.” – Gary King

During the holiday break I had the pleasure of hosting some interstate friends for a weekend. I don’t get to see these friends very often so it was a weekend filled with fun, sharing the best that my home town has to offer, great conversations and plenty of laughs as the stories flowed. I could sense through their comments that this first half of 2016 is definitely going to be an exciting one. The light at the end of the ‘back to University 18 months ago for one of them to retrain’ tunnel is getting brighter with only one semester left to go. What really struck me in our conversations about this journey though was the advice my friends wife gave him when he embarked on his first placement within this Masters course.

“We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.” – Tad Williams

It was advice that sounded so simple when they shared the story. It was also advice that reminded me of how many times in our personal and professional lives we contort what should be simple into a web of complexity. Her advice was something like this. If someone asks you something and you aren’t sure, just say ‘I don’t know but I can find out’. Maybe these eight simple, empowering words strung together aren’t as catchy as the popular saying, ‘fake it till you make it’. But maybe, just maybe, they were and are a more appropriate reminder for my friend and us all to always strive to start his/our journey/s through honestly engaging with all those we are to interact with. Including and really importantly beginning with ourselves.

“When you stretch the truth, watch out for the snapback.” – Bill Copeland

We’ve all experienced vulnerability. As we step outside of our comfort zones it is a constant passenger. It’s why we find it so comforting in situations like my friend walking into in his first placement to wear armour like, ‘I’ve got to have everything in control, not be seen as not having it all together, and make sure I’m the expert’. With all this armour on though we are left with thoughts, words and actions that feel heavy and don’t allow us to experience the authentic connection, stretching, growth and development that is on offer when we compassionately lean into the uncertainty of taking our armour off. I love that this simple compound sentence is a daily practice that my friends use within their journeys of potential.

“The greatest advantage of speaking the truth is that you don’t have to remember what you said.” – Unknown

What advice have you been given or heard from another’s experience that has resonated deeply like this for you? What daily practices allow you to stay aligned or come back to your values, while striving to honestly engage with all those you come into contact with? Where is it in your journey of potential that you find it easiest and/or most challenging to remove the armour that we feel protects us from vulnerability in our personal or professional lives?

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” – Unknown


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