I Don’t Know But I Can Find Out

January 25, 2016 at 2:58 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

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“The biggest consequence to telling a lie is, it leads you to telling another one.” – Gary King

During the holiday break I had the pleasure of hosting some interstate friends for a weekend. I don’t get to see these friends very often so it was a weekend filled with fun, sharing the best that my home town has to offer, great conversations and plenty of laughs as the stories flowed. I could sense through their comments that this first half of 2016 is definitely going to be an exciting one. The light at the end of the ‘back to University 18 months ago for one of them to retrain’ tunnel is getting brighter with only one semester left to go. What really struck me in our conversations about this journey though was the advice my friends wife gave him when he embarked on his first placement within this Masters course.

“We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.” – Tad Williams

It was advice that sounded so simple when they shared the story. It was also advice that reminded me of how many times in our personal and professional lives we contort what should be simple into a web of complexity. Her advice was something like this. If someone asks you something and you aren’t sure, just say ‘I don’t know but I can find out’. Maybe these eight simple, empowering words strung together aren’t as catchy as the popular saying, ‘fake it till you make it’. But maybe, just maybe, they were and are a more appropriate reminder for my friend and us all to always strive to start his/our journey/s through honestly engaging with all those we are to interact with. Including and really importantly beginning with ourselves.

“When you stretch the truth, watch out for the snapback.” – Bill Copeland

We’ve all experienced vulnerability. As we step outside of our comfort zones it is a constant passenger. It’s why we find it so comforting in situations like my friend walking into in his first placement to wear armour like, ‘I’ve got to have everything in control, not be seen as not having it all together, and make sure I’m the expert’. With all this armour on though we are left with thoughts, words and actions that feel heavy and don’t allow us to experience the authentic connection, stretching, growth and development that is on offer when we compassionately lean into the uncertainty of taking our armour off. I love that this simple compound sentence is a daily practice that my friends use within their journeys of potential.

“The greatest advantage of speaking the truth is that you don’t have to remember what you said.” – Unknown

What advice have you been given or heard from another’s experience that has resonated deeply like this for you? What daily practices allow you to stay aligned or come back to your values, while striving to honestly engage with all those you come into contact with? Where is it in your journey of potential that you find it easiest and/or most challenging to remove the armour that we feel protects us from vulnerability in our personal or professional lives?

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” – Unknown

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You Can’t Skip Act Two

January 18, 2016 at 7:11 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

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“Where you stumble and fall, there you will find gold.” – Joseph Campbell

Wow, as I write this post we find ourselves now a couple of weeks into twenty sixteen. Since my last post I’ve enjoyed celebrating the start of this New Year through some holiday fun with family and friends. I love the energy and potential that a new year brings, providing plenty of opportunities to recharge, realign and purposefully set off on the adventures to come. Firstly, here’s to twenty fifteen, 365 days of striving to embody our last years mantra, to ‘really listen and intentionally act’. Secondly, here is how and why we got to the mantra that is going to guide our thoughts, words and actions in 2016.

“Here’s how I see the progression of my work: The Gifts of Imperfection—Be you. Daring Greatly—Be all in. Rising Strong—Fall. Get up. Try again.” – Brené Brown

Brené Brown’s latest book, ‘Rising Strong’, was released towards the end of last year. I, like so many others around the world, have found her books, talks, research and storytelling inspiring, challenging and empowering, especially in the area of languaging important parts of our individual and shared journeys of potential (as described in her quote above). The title of this post then references the work of Joseph Campbell within his ‘Hero’s Journey’. After trying every comfortable way to engage with and navigate through a given set/s of challenges, each hero then makes a choice, retreat back to their ordinary world (our good old comfort zone) or take on the call to adventure, stretching and growing within the trials and tests that are to come. Here is where our 2016 mantra, Joseph Campbell’s and Brené Brown’s work meet, personally and professionally we will be ‘Remembering to Rumble’ this year.

“Great leaders don’t set out to be a leader… They set out to make a difference. It’s never about the role – always about the goal.” – Lisa Haisha

Our vision remains ‘informed, connected and empowered individuals believing deeply in their own and others potential’. To move further and further towards this we need to ‘rumble’. The quote above and our ongoing experiences supporting Stage 3 leaders reminds us that when we are focussed on using our daily thoughts, words and actions to make a difference in our own and others lives (rather than worrying about who’s in charge, who’s in control, waiting for the position of leader to be given to us or that we need x, y or z to begin) we are much more likely to get really honest with ourselves and others, own our story, ask for the support and guidance we need, and stay in the struggle, complexity and discomfort long enough for as Brené explains, ‘the rumble is where wholeheartedness is cultivated and change begins’. I am ever mindful of the Art Williams quote within this process, ‘I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy, I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it’.

“Many of us will spend our entire lives trying to slog through the shame swampland to get to a place where we can give ourselves permission to both be imperfect and to believe we are enough.” – Brené Brown, Rising Strong

I look forward to the opportunity of again being proud of, inspired by, growing from and thankful for so much this year. I look forward to an ever evolving journey that will involve both successes and challenges, compassionately remembering that, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts” – Winston Churchill. I look forward to courageously walking this path of ‘Remembering to Rumble’ together with so many within our spheres of influence. Because you (all of us) and your (all of us) contribution matter! This I know for sure.

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