Does It Have To Be This Way?

December 20, 2015 at 10:47 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment


“The limits of the possible can only be defined by going beyond them into the impossible.” – Arthur C. Clarke

Our last program of fourth term has been delivered. Schools around the country have broken up for the summer. What a year 2015 has been! The holidays are now upon us all in some direct (a bit of relaxation and breathing space for you, your family, etc. – plus a little bit of ‘what am I going to do with the kids’ I’m sure) or indirect way (you want everyone to stop talking about holidays because you’re still at work). For this post though I wanted to reflect on a question that gets posed a lot by myself and the participants in our programs. Does it have to be this way?

“When nothing is sure, everything is possible.” – Margaret Drabble

We all dance between certainty and uncertainty all the time. Each of us have different environments, interactions and situations that we feel more able and less able to navigate the discomfort that uncertainty can bring. Throw other people into this mix and we are all walking in and out of what could be perfect storms each and every day. As leaders, our ability to stay mindful (present and aware) and empowered (responsible for thoughts, words and actions, and out of blame) during the challenges we face is a big factor in our individual and shared effectiveness as we explore the possibilities. If we want to make a difference in our own and others lives then developing deeper understanding and practices in this area is very important.

“I am neither an optimist nor pessimist, but a possibilist.” – Max Lerner

I’ve observed so many possibilists this year within our programs. It doesn’t mean that those participants didn’t encounter frustration, conflict, disappointment, confusion, hesitation and failure throughout the journey. It just meant that they found ways to navigate through all the complexity that presents itself when we have the courage to try. There is never only one way to do anything. There is also never just one store bought version of success. The leaders that we have the privilege to support experienced, reflected on and processed the importance of exploring the possibilities, as they wanted to continue discovering potential (their own, others, etc.) and acting authentically .

“The possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react.” – George Bernard Shaw

So this holiday period and/or as 2016 begins where will you be courageously and compassionately asking yourself and others, does it have to be this way? What practices allow you to stay or come back to being mindful (present and aware) and empowered (responsible for thoughts, words and actions, and out of blame) during the challenges that are faced within the holiday period and/or as 2016 begins? Does the word possibilist resonate within your journey of potential?

“The shell must break before the bird can fly.” – Alfred Tennyson

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you, your family and friends. Wherever, however and with whoever you celebrate with over the coming weeks may you be reminded of what’s most important and connects us all.


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