Instead of Control, INFLUENCE

October 20, 2014 at 8:25 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment


“Influence may be the highest level of human skills.” – Author Unknown

At Explore Discover Act we believe, “Leadership is a purposeful journey that utilises a combination of developing skills, attitude and behaviours, and is courageously practiced daily by individuals and groups through their thoughts, words and actions.” The purpose we refer to in this statement is our ability to make a difference in our own and others lives each and every day, as we explore the possibilities, discover potential and act authentically. As we show up, engage fully and make individual and collective choices we will inevitably encounter the themes of and ripples created by striving to control or influence ourselves, others or specific situations/interactions/etc. Within these choices we offer that instead of seeking to control, INFLUENCE.

“You can’t light another’s path without casting light on your own.” – John C. Maxwell

When we attempt to control, whether it be ourselves, others or an external happening, lashings of judgement accompany the given thoughts, words and actions. Control invites a separation from rather than an acceptance of and continued deepening connection to self, others and the world around us. A decision is made from a place of vulnerability, superiority, power, righteousness or other similar feelings that certain thoughts, words or actions can be justified and are the only option at a particular time. The journey of ‘being the change’ is indeed a vulnerable one, with all of us experiencing times when we ‘believed’ that someone, something or a particular situation should look/sound/behave/etc. a certain way. Staying open to our ability to be a shining light in our own and others journeys unfolds within striving to influence rather than control.

“The only way in which one human being can properly attempt to influence another is by encouraging him to think for himself, instead of endeavouring to instil ready-made opinions into his head.” – Leslie Stephen

Growing our awareness and appreciation of control and influence offers us opportunities to be empowered, empower and connect. It is incredible how far ripples of influence can travel in our own and others lives. As we navigate the successes and challenges that life presents we can remember that we are all in this together and that our daily thoughts, words and actions matter. Our impact, in our own and others lives, unfolds moment by moment, choice by choice. Our vision at Explore Discover Act of, ‘Informed, connected and empowered individuals believing deeply in their own and others potential’ highlights a lens of choosing influence over control. We continue to be inspired by the example of so many that we come into contact with on this interdependent journey.

“Every one of us receives and passes on an inheritance. The inheritance may not be an accumulation of earthly possessions or acquired riches, but whether we realize it or not, our choices, words, actions, and values will impact someone and form the heritage we hand down.” – Ben Hardesty

How would you describe the role that control and influence play in your own journey of potential? Who in your spheres of influence inspires you by the way they interact with themselves, others and the world around them? What are you most proud of in your journey of making a difference in your own and others lives? What would you hope others would say about your daily thoughts, words and actions and the way you influence all those you come into contact with?

“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others, it is the only means.” – Albert Einstein


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